Essay about Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is an
especially important quality indeed. It is how you view the world and those you
daily pass by and converse with. Or even those you will never see again but you
still talk to, it is a few words on your way to the elevator or when buying a
cup of coffee. Emotional intelligence (EI), is based on how you treat others as
well as how you treat yourself. How you regulate yourself when you are angry, controlling the flow of emotion surging through your body. When you are sad, picking yourself up and keeping the bad thoughts of giving up away. Being
empathetic and stepping into someone else's shoes. This and lots of other very
crucial psychological traits that will help you with your day to day basis and
when living along other people. This is a topic that when heard may come off as
easy. You may say “Of course I can be empathetic or self-aware effortlessly!”.
Nevertheless, it is not as easy as it comes off, as it is, as some may say,
easier said than done. For some people it gets tricky when they come to the
extent where they need to be empathetic or flexible due to their career, major
or environment. For some others that could be easy and the moment they need to
trust or cheer themselves up when feeling down is the most difficult. For the
purpose of this topic I will share a personal anecdote or, well, my personal
experiences regarding the said field. It is something difficult for me because
while to my consideration I accept my mistakes, which may be that I am good
with self-awareness.
But sometimes it gets to a point where I think that every
single little thing wrong is my mistake, and that is not the extent you want to
get to. One should be able to recognize their flaws as well as their strengths.
I may not be the best in history class, dates and events are not my strong suit
and that is fine. One should acknowledge that one should not be the best or the
first at everything, we are humans and we have flaws. But while I am bad at history,
I am good at learning new languages or at science and biology, which are topics
interesting in my opinion. Those are some of my strengths.
Sometimes you may feel down, and you’ll tell yourself harmful things, you can’t be perfect, no one can and you should not put pressure over your shoulders for an impossible goal. However, I am not trying to imply that if you are not good at something or don’t know how to act under certain circumstances you should quit and focus on your strong suit. Quite the opposite, you should take that as a motivation to surge forward and learn how to do said thing. Maybe you don’t know how to cook, it is never late to try! You can watch an internet video, ask someone to help you or try with no reference and learn from the mistakes you made.
Sometimes you may feel down, and you’ll tell yourself harmful things, you can’t be perfect, no one can and you should not put pressure over your shoulders for an impossible goal. However, I am not trying to imply that if you are not good at something or don’t know how to act under certain circumstances you should quit and focus on your strong suit. Quite the opposite, you should take that as a motivation to surge forward and learn how to do said thing. Maybe you don’t know how to cook, it is never late to try! You can watch an internet video, ask someone to help you or try with no reference and learn from the mistakes you made.
With
all of this it may seem as if emotional intelligence is all about self-esteem and
taking care of yourself --which is called intrapersonal intelligence as well--,
and while that is an important part of it, it is not what EI is all about.
Another pertinent part of this topic is how you express yourself towards
others, how you say the way you feel about certain issues or if you compliment
others and recognize their hard work. Interpersonal intelligence also includes
if you are easily adaptable or flexible to the situations you are presented
with, how you manage conflict or if you are a leader who takes initiative.
Those two forms of intelligence are strongly related because it all starts within oneself if you do not respect and love yourself you most probably will not be able to project those feelings onto others. To sum it all up, emotional intelligence is a big part of our day to day life. It is divided into two forms which are both related, intrapersonal EI and interpersonal EI. They are important because they take a serious part of how you are seen and your success, since most careers are based on talking with others or meeting new people and along with them new environments.
Those two forms of intelligence are strongly related because it all starts within oneself if you do not respect and love yourself you most probably will not be able to project those feelings onto others. To sum it all up, emotional intelligence is a big part of our day to day life. It is divided into two forms which are both related, intrapersonal EI and interpersonal EI. They are important because they take a serious part of how you are seen and your success, since most careers are based on talking with others or meeting new people and along with them new environments.
By Juliana Restrepo, Step 9.
