Intrapersonal Skills To Foster Interpersonal Reationships
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at school, and work, and achieve your career and personal goals. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions about what matters most to you.
Emotional intelligence is especially
important to survive in society. It is one of the most fundamental things, and
every human being needs to manage and understand their emotions. Our social
life, and our life in general, circles around the idea of interacting with
others. We need to be sociable to have a good and serene life, because of this
you need to know how to regulate your emotions and how to use them in every
environment. The hard part of understanding others' emotions is that you have
to first be aware of you and self-manage your own ones.
There are a lot of things that might
help you to understand your emotions, for example asking yourself: How I am
feeling? Why am I feeling this way? What caused me to feel this way? How do I
control this? If you are feeling angry, sad or you just want to scream or cry,
count to ten, breathe in and out, and in a serene voice deal with this
situation. You know that you have mastered
controlling your emotions if you know how you are feeling and if you know how
to deal with the situation you are dealing with.
Now, you must take another step, and
understand the emotions of others. The funny part about this is that we, as
humans do not like to express our emotions, most of us like to stay with them
inside and do not like to talk about them. This is when nonverbal communication
comes. The facial expressions of others, how they are standing, or how their
eyes are might help you to understand how the other person is feeling. If you
pay close attention and have that nonverbal perception, you are in the middle
of the way of understanding others' emotions.
The other part of the road is
feeling empathy and knowing how to help that person. You must ask yourself: If
I was in that person's shoes, how I would be feeling? How can I help this
person? If this person was me?
There are also little things that
you need to know to understand how you feel. Motivation, for example, is one of
the most important things in life, without it, you cannot do anything.
Motivation is an important life skill. Every person on this earth is unique and
has a purpose. To steward your purpose well, you must be motivated to work
towards your goals which helps your dreams become a reality.
You need to be flexible, not
everything you want to do, or the way you want it is going to result in that
way, sometimes you have to listen to other's ideas and have flexible planning
for everything.
You must pay attention to important
things and useful things for your life, you have to redirect your attention to
things that really matter and leave the bad things behind.
You need to be creative; creativity
is everything. Being creative helps you become a better problem solver in all
areas of your life and work, creativity helps you see things differently and
better deal with uncertainty.
Having and mastering all these
skills help you to achieve the things you want for your life, have initiated
and help you to become a better leader for others and yourself, obviously
emotional self-control which helps you at the same time with adaptability to
different environments, in your self-confidence and for being conscious of what
is going around you and others.
Social competence and transparency towards
others are also involved in this, which helps others to understand you better and
you will get better with them because you are a trustful person. Managing your emotions helps you in
conflict solving to avoid bigger problems that can affect you and others too.
It is not the smartest people who
are the most successful or the most fulfilled in life. You probably think that
having a high IQ is going to fulfill your life, but you need to have an IQ and EQ
to achieve that.
By Manuela Orozco E.
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