EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognize, understand, guide, own emotions, and those of others, and gain the ability to orient them by relating to others. It's also important in health because negative emotions can affect personal health by diminishing the body's defense capabilities. Therefore, emotional intelligence not only refers to how to relate to others but how each person is aware of their emotions and how they process them.
Since we are born and as we grow we find a great list of things that can make different emotions emerge in us and the easiest way to act is to act without controlling themselves as it happens in young children when they want something crying, they throw tantrum and in the end, they often don't get what they wanted and they just get scolding making the situation worse, as people get older they gain more control and that's because we know our emotions.
With studies that Daniel Goleman has carried out it has been discovered that the human being has different characteristics of personality, which are part of emotional intelligence, and how human beings can be aware of them, use them for their development and personal success.
People know and experience feelings of different characters, however, on some occasions they are not aware of why they occur, similarly, they don't know how to process or handle them properly. It is appreciated in the abilities, talents, and abilities that each of us has. Rather, emotional intelligence is about understanding, controlling, and modifying emotional states of its own and others.
It is important to develop emotional intelligence, for personal and social success, because of the understanding and orientation of emotions, develops and increases its capacities for interaction with others, the capacities for leadership, to make sound decisions in difficult situations; hence proper development and management allows human beings to experience progress and overcoming. Also, be more energetic, effective, and develop more confidence in the relationship with others.
According to Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence is based on five basic principles:
1.Knowledge of one's emotions
Self-knowledge is to have the ability to recognize the right feeling at the moment it appears because people who have greater certainty of their emotions are the ones who tend to direct their lives better because they have sure knowledge about what their feelings are real.
2. The ability to control emotions
It allows us to control our feelings and adapt them to the moment, as is the ability to reassure oneself, to get rid of anxiety, sadness, irritability, and the consequences of their absence are self-awareness.
3. The ability to motivate oneself.
People who can have emotional self-control tend to be more productive and effective in businesses.
4. Recognition of other people's emotions.
Empathy is the capacity that settles into one's emotional consciousness. Empathetic people often tune in to subtle social cues that indicate that they need or want others and this ability makes it more suitable for vocation performance.
5. Relationship control.
The art of relationships is based, to a large extent, on the ability to properly relate to the emotions of others that underlie popularity, leadership, and interpersonal effectiveness. People who excel in these kinds of skills are often authentic.
Besides, Goleman determines that intellectual conditions are not the only ones to determine professional and work success, but are only a factor, which must join emotional needs, in this way the human being manages to motivate himself for adequate and productive performance. He suggests that “it is not simply a case of IQ versus EI, instead, both have considerable value. Where IQ tells us the level of cognitive complexity a person can achieve and may to some degree predetermine levels of academic achievement, EI tells us which individuals will make the best leaders within top management positions, for example.”
As Goleman once said, it is not IQ vs EQ, is that you find a balance between both. Try to be happier and empathetic, that’s the only way to be a really successful person in life.
In conclusion, the development and understanding of emotional intelligence and integration into the human being is of great importance, since it includes the vision, mission, personal, family and professional values of each of us, also favors the establishment of healthy social relationships. For it includes the ability to share and understand what others feel and most importantly, it helps us to be happy and exercises a well-being in our lives.
By Laura Rodriguez, Step 8
Yellow, Affectivity Project
